#7: Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?

When I speak with a client that has never had an estate plan put in place I will usually ask them if there was any specific reason that caused them to put the decision off. Frequently the answer to that question is something along the lines of “some months I struggle just to pay the bills, I don’t feel like a will is a priority.” And, often, I would agree. Putting food on the table and a roof over your head should come before anything else. That’s why I don’t limit my practice to counseling client’s about estate planning. I like to engage with my clients on a personal level, because a client’s values and beliefs are every bit as important as their assets when it comes to planning for the future.

That’s one of the reasons I started this podcast and blog. I wanted to create a resource for clients to find answers to their estate planning questions, but I also wanted to create an equally valuable resources that addressed the very real day-to-day concerns of my average client. A resource where clients could find advice on implementing positive habits and decision-making strategies; a place for straight-forward tips they could implement in their life immediately to start seeing results.

In this week’s episode I take aim at the one person responsible for every single one of your problems…You. Now, don’t get the pitchforks out just yet, I’m just as guilty as you are. This week I discuss how owning your victories AND your failures is the path to success.

To Be the Man, You Gotta Beat the Man


These words, from Charlotte’s own Ric Flair, have resonated with me for years. It’s such a profoundly simple way of measuring success. If you want what someone else has you have to better than they are. Simple as that. Now that I have a few years under me, “the man” I’m trying to best is no longer the man across the ring/conference table, but the man in the mirror. One of my daily goals is to ensure that the man I see in the mirror tomorrow is more accomplished than the man I see today.

In my one-on-one coaching sessions, most people I speak with genuinely want to transform their lives, they want more from life than they’re getting. However, I’ve noticed a self-defeating pattern emerge as well: blame. Blaming life circumstances, blaming lazy co-workers, bad bosses, a down economy. Blame, blame, blame. Blame is something I’m intimately familiar  with. I’ve spent my fair share of time designing narratives that made me feel better about my shortcomings. But, at the end of the day blame gives you temporary satisfaction and gets you nowhere. That’s why in this week’s episode I attack blame and a few other toxic habits that may be sabotaging your growth. I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I did making it.

As promised, the links to the educational resources discussed in the episode:

Khan Academy, iTunes University, Code Academy, Udemy, Lynda

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